No worries - I wasn't taking you comments as an affront to my judgement :-)

I do think that one of the saddest things about child abuse - particularly when it is perpetrated by a family member, or trusted friend or mentor is that it has the possibility to forever leave people questioning their judgement. The parents of the child who let that person into their lives, may never trust anyone again. The child him/herself may develop trust issues. It's sad because in addition to the relationship and the solid character formation that comes from cross generational relationships, there is the knowledge that's passed on, and there is the transmission of culture and traditions, which is of paramount importance these days.